Children’s Self-Harm and Suicide Prevention

Key Warning Signs of Suicidal Thoughts:​

If a child or young person is:

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Talking or Writing About:

• Wanting to die or kill themselves

• Feeling hopeless or having no reason to live

• Feeling like a burden to others

• Saying they have no purpose

• Mentioning suicide, even casually

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“Everyone would be better off without me.”
“I can’t do this anymore.”
“I wish I could just disappear.”

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Emotional Signs:

• Ongoing sadness or low mood

• Sudden mood swings (calm after being extremely distressed may indicate a decision has been made)

• Extreme anxiety, agitation, or rage

• Withdrawal from family and friends

• Loss of interest in hobbies or school

• Feeling worthless or guilty

• Expressing shame or humiliation

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Behavioural Signs:

• Giving away personal belongings or writing “goodbye” notes

• Suddenly putting affairs in order (e.g., deleting social accounts, saying unusual goodbyes)

• Risk-taking behaviour (reckless driving, unsafe sex, substance misuse)

• Isolating themselves more than usual

• Increased use of alcohol or drugs

• Sleeping too little or too much

• Self-harming (cutting, burning, hitting) — a strong risk factor for suicide

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Physical Signs:

• Unexplained injuries

• Changes in eating habits (overeating or refusing food)

• Noticeable weight loss or gain

• Tiredness, low energy, or complaints of frequent headaches or stomach-aches

 

Who Might Be at Higher Risk?

Suicidal thoughts can affect any child or teen, but they may be more common in those who:

• Have a history of self-harm or suicide attempts

• Have experienced trauma, abuse, or bullying

• Identify as LGBTQ+ and lack support

• Are dealing with family breakdown or bereavement

• Have a mental health condition such as depression or anxiety

• Feel isolated or socially excluded

• Are under academic or social pressure

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What You Can Do as a Parent or Carer

• Take all signs seriously — never assume they’re “just being dramatic”

• Ask directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” (It will not put the idea in their head)

• Listen without judgement and stay calm

• Don’t dismiss their feelings, even if they don’t seem logical

• Seek help immediately if you're worried about their safety

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If You’re Concerned Right Now

• In an emergency, call 999 or take them to A&E

• Papyrus HOPELINE247: 0800 068 41 41 | Text 07860 039967

• Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7)

• Childline: 0800 1111

• YoungMinds Crisis Text Line: Text YM to 85258
   

When to Seek Professional Help

• If suicidal thoughts are mentioned (even once)

• If your child is self-harming or showing depressive behaviours

• If their behaviour changes drastically

• If they have a suicide plan or have made an attempt
   

Speak to your GP, school mental health lead, or a specialist service like CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services).

Final Note for Parents

If you’re reading this and feeling overwhelmed, please know this:

You are not failing as a parent. You are doing your best. And your child can get better.

We’re here to help you navigate this with compassion, clarity, and support.